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Daily writing prompt

What’s a skill you consider basic, that most people don’t actually know how to do?

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”Can I ask you something?”

What do you think is one skill everyone should have…but surprisingly few people do?

It’s an interesting question. At first, my mind went to practical things. Cooking, sewing on a button, changing a tyre… Knowing how to fold a fitted sheet (if you can do that without looking like you’re wrestling an octopus, I genuinely admire you).

But the more I thought about it, the more I realised the skill I value most isn’t practical at all. It’s being present. Really present. Not sitting with someone while secretly checking your phone. Not watching a sunset through a camera lens. Not drinking coffee while already thinking about the next thing on your to do list.

Just… Being where you are. It sounds so simple. Surely, that’s something everyone knows how to do. And yet..

When was the last time you drank a whole cup of coffee without reaching for your phone? When was the last time you finished a chapter of a book without wondering if someone had replied to your message? When was the last time you went for a walk simply to enjoy the walk?

I’ve noticed how often I catch myself rushing through moments that deserve my attention. I’ll be halfway through a beautiful morning… Already thinking about the afternoon… I’ll be looking at the sea, while wondering what I will eat for dinner. I will be cuddling Charlie or Hermes, and remembering an email I forgot to send.

It’s almost as though my mind believes happiness always lives five minutes in the future. But it doesn’t. It never has. Happiness has a funny habit of arriving quietly. It waits in the first sip of coffee, in the smell of fresh bread, in a conversation that lasts longer than expected, in a dog falling asleep at your feet, in the sunlight dancing across the kitchen table.

Tiny moments, easy to miss, unless we are paying attention.

I am beginning to think that being present is less about mindfulness and more about permission. Permission to stop rushing, to let the coffee cool a little, to look out of the window without feeling guilty that you are ”doing nothing”.

Maybe that’s the skill we are all still learning. Not how to do more. But how to notice more. Because one day, we will look back and realise those ordinary moments weren’t interruptions. They were the life we were so busy trying to get through. And what a shame it would be to miss them.